It’s no secret that I’m not a fan of my in-laws.
I hate the drama that comes along with them.
I hate how they are always assuming I’m thinking one way, when they have no idea how I think or feel.
I hate how there’s always tension when they’re around.
I hate how I will never have the respect for them that I should have.
I hate how we will never be this happy, close family. Because even when I open my heart up, they find a way to get me to slam it shut towards them.
And I hate how my husband’s father just found out he has cancer.
What do you do when someone who no matter what doesn’t like you? My entire 10 years with my husband his family has had this attitude towards me like I think I’m too good for them. I don’t think this. My only issues are that they don’t put my children as a priority in their lives, and now look…. my kids’ grandpa could possibly be dying. My children love my in-laws…. LOVE THEM. I’ve never ONCE intended to EVER keep my children from them, but they think I always have this motive. They are the ones that put them on the back burner.
I hate having conditional family. I hate that if I speak up for myself I’m hated.
But even more so, I hate that my husband’s father is sick.
Woah. That’s a tough spot for you to be in.
Maybe, now they’ll reevaluate themselves & their priorities and things will change? I hope so.
I really hope that they do stop, reevaluate the way they are towards us and change things. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to open my heart fully to them again though. The whole thing just down right sucks.
I have in-laws issues as well. It is a tough situation. Sometimes something bad happening, like the cancer, makes people think a little differently about things. Perhaps attitudes will change and there will be peace among everyone. Definitely be in prayer about it.
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It’s definitely something that needs to be heavily in my prayers. Thanks for your words, Joy <3
Oh that’s so hard Amanda. How do you not like someone when they’re dying? I have a lot of “not nice” feelings towards my in laws and I often think how I would feel if something actually did happen to one of them. Would I feel terrible for thinking so bad of them?
I hope and pray you and your inlaws can come to a peace about this situation.
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It’s the hardest situation I think I’ve ever been in. I don’t know what to think or say or do. I’m very proud of my husband for taking the step of calling his father when his brother told him. With everything that had happened Gino never wanted to speak to them again. This new journey will be very interesting. In the end I hope that his health is restored and he chooses a more healthier lifestyle.
What a rough spot to be in. When someone is sick like that, you want to be there for them, but it’s so hard when they have never been there for you. *hugs*
Hardest spot I think I’ve ever been in. Thanks, Shell.
I’m so sorry that you are in this situation!
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Aw, this is gonna be rough. Just try and stay strong… At least you can vent here on your blog.
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oh wow-I’m sorry you are having to go through this. Sending big hugs your way dear friend…
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