I’m Outta Here!!! Going to CALIFORNIA!

This week we will be on the road

You know dang well that I go NO WHERE without my laptop,

So you just might be lucky enough to have me pop in,

But don’t hold your breath 🙂  I’m going to CALIFORNIA!  To hang out with {THIS COOL CHICK}
I hope you have a fantastic, delicious Thanksgiving ~ don’t forget to remember what this day is all about.
Just a Motivating Monday will resume next Monday 🙂

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Ella is 2 and is acting like a stripper… I’m worried

I’m sure I’ve blogged about this before, but just in case I haven’t I HAVE TO DO IT NOW! A while ago my ever so ghetto brother decided he would give Ella a dollar. When he gave it to her, he opened up her pull up and stuffed it on the side…. stripper style.


That has stuck with this little girl…. and I’m a little afraid about her future.


Any time she sees money, she grabs it and sticks it in her pull up… coupons… in her pull up. The other day I had $5.00 sitting on the table for Jayden’s book fair, and it was gone! Gino and I were looking everywhere. Ella was standing by the ottoman in her pull up and I walked over, pulled open her pull up to find the $5.00 nestled in there.


Should I be worried?

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Neighbor on Craigslist! LOL!!

Totally slacking here! Sorry…. there’s been new neighbor episodes.


Frankly… not even normal.


“Jim” comes to my door and asks if I was offended when he offered to take pictures of me for my husband. Offended? No. Would do it in a million years? No.


Apparently, assistant girl went on Craiglist in our area under Artists and put his name as the subject. When you opened it I guess it told people of how he was offending his neighbor by trying to get her to pose nude for him, and that he spent $14,000.00 on hookers this summer. That confuses me, because how can he be a pimp if he’s spending money on them? Obviously he doesn’t know what he’s doing…. or he’s just down right a perv!


So, after he told me this {which he claims it’s all lies} I asked if he reported it to Craigslist and he said he did. DAMN! I ran ever so quickly to my computer to take a screen shot of it for this blog post, but Craigslist is good… it was gone. BUMMER!






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This Blogging Community ROCKS

There are millions of mom blogs. You can jump from blog to blog and glance over quickly to find out if that one feels like one that you’ll like… if that blogger is a blogger that you think you can connect with you might follow them.  Then through commenting, tweeting, connecting you become friends.  Whether you click with the blogs you come across or not, they are still the heart of a soul.  They are where someone turns to vent, to brag, to plea, to share, to grow, to learn, to love.  There are a lot of people in my world and probably your’s that can’t quite grasp that.  They can’t quite grasp how we can have such close friendships over the internet.  How we can truly know someone just by stopping by their blog.

This is how.  In real life we normally don’t express every, single thing that we are feeling.  For the most part we can talk it out, but it doesn’t really all come out.  My feelings are displayed here on my blog.  This blog was not started for that reason.  My blog was started solely to benefit family back in California.  Now, if none of them even knew about my blog I’d probably be a lot happier {I love you all, but sometimes I’d like to write about things on here that I feel I can’t}  But I’m pretty good about letting my feelings out here.  The friends that I have met in this community understand me in ways that friends in my real life don’t.  And I in turn “get” them, because I have gone and internalized their feelings through reading their blog.

The community of this blogging world is beyond amazing to me.  Twitter/blogging…. the people are wonderful.  They’re quick to support you, help you, give you advice and just make you feel like somebody out there really does care about how you feel.  That somebody out there really is listening.
I have learned more about this community these past few days that makes me proud to be a part of it.  There has been a tragedy in our community with a very well known and loved blogger named Anissa.  She has suffered a massive stroke and is in DESPERATE need of prayers… prayers for a full recovery, and prayers for her family to hang on during these horribly trying times.  This community has flocked together with prayers and willingness to help in any way they can.  That to me is amazing!
I have not had the opportunity to get to know Anissa like most of the people in our community have.  I haven’t got to meet her at conferences, I didn’t follow her during her daughter’s cancer journey, but Anissa has touched my heart.  The words that I have read from others about her make me smile and hope that I too one day will get the pleasure of hugging her and becoming real friends with a wonderful soul….. I’m counting on her being at Blogher10 so that I can FINALLY MEET HER!
I’m so grateful for the friends that have touched my soul through their writings.  I’m so grateful for the friends that have come and given me the words of support that I needed at many times.  I’m grateful to be a part of this community and couldn’t imagine my life without it.  I thank all of my readers from the depths of my soul, whether you comment or not… just knowing that you’re there, listening matters to me.

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I’m thankful to be ME

A lot of my friends started life out a little differently than I did. They went to college, met, fell in love, got married, had kids, breastfed, completely started out in the mother/wife role…. this is how they were raised, this is how they did things. It’s all they’ve ever known to want.


I’m different. It’s noticeable that I am different. I get questions like when did you and Gino get married. May 15, 2004. Yes, you do the math… that was 5 years ago, and *GASP* our oldest is 8. We met, got pregnant, and just grew up and learned together…. yes, the THREE of us.  The fact that I was pregnant in no way made me want to get married.  I knew that I would be getting married because I was in love.  Lucky for me it happened to be the father of my child that I decided to spend the rest of my life with.  Ella came at a much more stable time in our life.


When talks of breastfeeding are going on, I just put a smile on my face and stay out of the subject because *GASP* I CHOSE not to breastfeed. Yup, I gave my kids that horrific poison that made it so that my kids NEVER got sick until they were way past the 1 year mark. No ear infections…. EVER. Healthy and smart…. can you believe it?!?! I’ve thought about IF there was ever to be a 3rd that I would possibly breastfeed, but I know that 2 times in a row now my kids have had tremendous success on formula. Did I mention that I too was formula fed, and I too am still alive?


I will never be them. I will never be the perfect housewife, the perfect mom, the perfect stranger, or the perfect friend. My differences from my friends is obvious. I have always felt that I am different. I’ve experienced things in life that they haven’t. I’ve experienced things in life that have made me grow into who I am. I know who I am. I do not follow in the footsteps of ANYBODY.   I have created my footsteps through trial and error. My faith was not handed to me. I didn’t have the privilege of being taken to church every Sunday and being told that THIS IS WHAT WE BELIEVE.  I know that you eventually get your own testimony, but you are given the opportunity to gain that.  Nope, I got to experience *prior edited out, because it was written out of frustration…..if you were lucky enough to get here before I decided against writing it, then you know more about me than others know* things that I can look back on and say…. 

Thank you, God.  Thank you for for giving me the opportunity to find my way back to the church that I once was a part of as a very small child.  Thank you for showing me that even though all of that stuff was FUN it didn’t give me JOY.  Joy to me is something that I hold so dear to my heart, because before a couple of years ago I didn’t have joy in my life.  I was happy, but I wasn’t complete.

But I’m most thankful for the path I took to get here.  I’m thankful that I found my way and I will always be me.  Whether people like it or not, I am who I am…. and I love myself.  I know that I will never be perfect.  I’m going to do things that my friends would NEVER in a million years do.  Because I am me.  And just because I’ve grown to love something so much, I will always be ME.  I love the mistakes I’ve made, because without them, I wouldn’t be ME.  Without those mistakes Gino and I wouldn’t be a WE.  
 
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If the 8 Ball says it’s true…. it’s true!

Jayden has a friend. He’s never had a “best friend” at school yet.

I think it’s rather cute. Jayden goes over to his house for playdates, and I just learned a little from my husband about what those boys are up to on those playdates through a conversation that Gino had with Jayden.

We’re nosey parents. We want know EVERYTHING, because that’s just how we are.  We know that eventually we’ll get to know nothing, and we can already see how Jayden is becoming secretive {not in a bad way}…. just not wanting to share the juicy details happenings of his day with his parents

Gino: Jayden, do you like any girls like Alexis?

Jayden: No dad!  Alexis broke up with me.

Gino: What about Hailey?

Jayden: No, Dad! Isaiah’s in love with Hailey. We know this, because we shook the ball and asked if Isaiah was in love with Hailey and looked and it said yes.
Gino and I spent a while last night just sitting and talking about our kids. How crazy Ella is, how predictable Jayden is. How we think they will be as teens, and just all around a wonderful conversation. But this little nugget nestled in this conversation had us rolling!!!! Do you remember the days that you’d shake that magic 8 ball and anxiously await it’s answer….. because you know, it’s totally right!

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And she counts

There are moments in our children’s life that we do not want to forget. Moments we wished we documented, moments we wished we had gotten on video tape.

Today, I’m noting a momentous event here, now. It has not yet been video recorded (but it will) but I know that blogging is one of the fabulous perks of being able to have one place where I know where all things are.

Ella counts. She counts like this:

1, 2, 3, 5, 6, 8, 9, 10

and it’s the cutest thing in the world. And I love her so much.

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Oh there more, people…. there’s more!

Do you need to catch up on the neighbor drama going on before reading the following?  It’s all about having a PIMP for a neighbor. {CLICK HERE}


Things have been quiet.


Life has begun to be normal.


Occasionally I hear a garage door open next door, but THAT. IS. IT. NOTHING


Until today….


Door bell rings, I answer there is “Jim” creepy neighbor pimp.


Me: “Um, hi, Jim!”


Jim: “Just wondering if you’ve been being bugged from “Assistant”. Has she been calling you?”


Me: “Nope.”


Jim: “Oh, good! Glad she’s not bugging you. Have the cops been by to talk to you?”


Me: “Um, no. Should they be?


Jim: “Oh, no. Just curious, okay talk to you later.


Me: Speechless


Can we say WEIRD?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

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Just a Motivating Monday – Forgiveness is a Virtue


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Carissa over at Good N’ Crazy had a great topic on her blog for Church Talk. It’s something that has totally stuck in my mind since reading it and I think I’m going to spin off of her post for Just a Motivating Monday.

Virtue is a beautiful word. It’s a word that I’m trying to master into my life. I want to be virtuous. I want people to look at me and smile with the thought in their mind… she has so much virtue about her.

For the next few weeks I’m going to pick a virtuous trait and talk about it for Just a Motivating Monday.

This week: Forgiveness

Everybody has been hurt by someone they love.  Or maybe you hurt someone you love.  The point is… we have to be able to forgive in our heart.

President Hinckley of the LDS Church once said in an article:

“Somehow forgiveness, with love and tolerance, accomplishes miracles that can happen in no other way.”

I know it is so hard at times to forgive people, but are you perfect?  Have you gone through your whole life not doing a thing wrong to someone?  Have you been forgiven?  Forgiving somebody, especially yourself can be one of the hardest things in this world to do.  But if you are virtuous and want to be forgiven, you yourself  MUST do this.

Tips to Forgive

  • Pray to Heavenly Father and ask Him for His help.  He can soften your heart and help you to forgive.
  • Get rid of the bitterness.  If you’re still plotting out ways to get even the forgiving process is no where near.
  • Once you have forgiven, let it go.  Don’t hold on to it, because that’s holding a grudge… which does not mean you have forgiven.
  • Don’t focus so much on the negative things that have happened to you.  If you are focusing on the positive things in your life, and the positive things people have done for you, you will be able to forgive the negative things easier.  There’s no point in holding on to negativity when there’s so much positivity to welcome into your heart.
  • You need to remember that when you are forgiving, it’s for you.  It’s not for the person that did you wrong, but it is for you and your exaltation.  It’s a process you must go through, and you will be forgiving others for you.

A very good friend of mine… you can find her on twitter @jenhoehne contributed to this post by saying:

“I think that forgiveness is one of those words like “love” that people use loosley. To truly forgive someone means you have let go of any ill will and no longer harbor feelings of anger or angst toward another person.
Forgiving ourselves goes hand in hand with forgiving others. We are often times harder on ourselves than the person or people we have wronged. Forgiving others means letting go of hurt they have caused you and forgiving yourself is learning to love yourself after you have caused another person pain. Both are crutial in the eternal realm of this life and critical to our salvation and prosperity hereafter.”

Final Thought:

I know it’s hard… forgiveness is one of the hardest things that we do, but it’s something that in time needs to be done.  I haven’t completely forgiven everybody in my life that needs forgiveness, but it’s definitely something I have been working on.  Some of the people I have forgiven I have chosen not to have in my life.  Reasons being that they just aren’t a good influence on who I’m trying to be, but I have forgiven them in my heart and with God.  It’s something we should all have… it’s a virtue and if you want to be virtuous it’s a step you should take.


I hope that this post inspires you to start the forgiving process if you haven’t already.  I hope that it inspires you to always have a forgiveness attitude in your heart ~ it will only make you a better person.

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Potty Training at its FINEST


I have got to say…. having a puppy and a toddler together is one big fricking circus in this house!
The dog is pretty much potty trained.
I can’t even begin to describe the excitement in my soul about this!
The toddler is in potty training process….
It’s going well….
She actually went by herself yesterday, and decided to not put on her pullup
Instead just the pajama pants…
and I had NO. I-DEA…….
until droplets of poop starts coming out of the bottom of her pants in the kitchen.
After rushing her to toilet and then back to clean up the poop,
I found it had already been cleaned up for me…
by the puppy….

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