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His First Meeting with Bishop

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The first part of this post really isn’t my Pour Your Heart Out ~ it’s more towards the end.  I originally didn’t write this post as a Pour Your Heart Out post, but realized that towards the end that’s kinda what I did 🙂  




We’ve set the baptism date {this Saturday, 5:00pm LDS church in Ashland on Clay Street} So, if you didn’t know about it, now you know about it. You can consider this your invitation 🙂


A picture of my favorite LDS Temple in SLC ~ Jayden loved going to this temple


Today Jayden had to go talk with the Bishop like every member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints gets to do before baptism. When we set the appointment I thought to myself… ‘Uh oh! Does Jayden even know what he’s doing?! Why he’s getting baptized?! What the heck this all means?!’ So, we sat down to ask him a few questions to see how much he knew. Even though he goes to church, loves Jesus, loves God knows that the Holy Ghost is a good thing and not a creepy thing…. he really didn’t have a clue.

I’ve tried to explain it to the best of my abilities, and I was very pleased today when he got out of his appointment with the Bishop that Bishop said… “He did great! Answered all the questions I had right.” THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! I really didn’t think he was paying attention to the things I was telling him.

I’m so excited for my handsome, little man.

I look at our lives 5 years ago, when Jayden was only 3 and wow, what a difference. I never would have thought in a million years we’d be where we are at in our lives. I never thought in a million years I’d be back at church let alone bringing my entire family with me. I never thought I’d be planning my son’s baptism. 5 years is a HUGE difference. 5 years ago my marriage was on the rocks, 5 years ago I never thought my family would last…. and now look at us. It makes me smile and makes feel so proud of US, because we did this together ~ and it makes me borderline emotional to think about it.  I think that we have the church to thank for where we are at in our lives right now, because it gave us the missing piece in our lives that we never knew we were missing.  It’s really funny how that can happen, how you can discover that when you thought your life was complete it really wasn’t.  Just another interesting little weirdness about life.


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An Update for my 2nd Glass of Pour your Heart Out

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I SERIOUSLY never know what to expect with the situation with my niece and her mother. If you haven’t read {THIS} post yet, you should.  This is an update to my post for 

The original plan was that my niece’s mother was leaving Sacramento yesterday at 7pm to drive 5 hours, in the snow to pick up Alana. Then after she picks her toddler up and disturbs my family in the middle of the night, she then was planning on traveling back to Sacramento, in the snow, with her toddler. Needless to say, I was frustrated and upset.

Then I get a phone call from her saying that she’s going to instead be leaving at 2pm today. Then I get a message left on my voicemail from her brother saying they’ll be leaving around 2 and will be arriving here around 7. Whatever.
Oh, that’s when things change. This morning I could tell her mom had been partying all night and now she’s having issues with her family and has canceled the entire thing. So, now after I have prepared Alana for her mom coming to get her she has changed her mind.  Alana was expecting her mom, and I am relieved.
Her brother most definitely had not changed his plans, because I received a call from him letting me know he’s running late.  I had to inform him that I most definitely will not be handing Alana over to ANYBODY except for her own mother, and at this point her own mother prefers her to remain here with me.  Thank God.  Did he actually think I would hand over my niece to an absolute stranger {in my eyes}, he obviously doesn’t know me and the protective mother hen I am when it comes to my children and any child in my care. 

People…. this is a very, very crazy roller coaster.  I really never truly know what I’m going to wake up to.  So for now we still have her.  For now, she’s still safe. 


Believe it or not, there’s more {HERE}

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Pour Your Heart Out – #2

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On Wednesday’s Shell {if you click on the image below you will be taken to her awesome blog} has one of my new favorite carnivals ~ and I’m EXTREMELY early in posting this, but tonight was a night that I absolutely had to……..

so if you’re reading this post and would like to participate in Pour Your Heart Out, Shell will have it up for linkups Wednesday morning.

I have had my niece Alana for 44 days. For 44 days a mother has been putting something before her own child. For 44 days a child has been without her mother. For 44 days I have struggled with trying to give this child normalcy, structure and love. Things I don’t think she’s seen very often, because unfortunately most of her life has been spent being tossed here, being tossed there.
I’m writing this after I received the phone call that after 44 days her mom will be coming tomorrow to get her. She’s done with her party {for the time being} and is ready to play mommy for a while. But how long will it last? This is the part of taking a child into your home that’s the hardest.
I HAVE to put this in God’s hands and know that there is nothing I can do at this point. This child unfortunately was born to a girl who should have never been given the blessing of a child. She has no clue what honor it is to be able to love and teach your child. She has no clue what being a mom is all about. To her, when she’s tired of playing the responsible role, she just tosses her to the next willing person that will take her in. I’m sad to say that unless rights are going to be signed over to me I will not be this person anymore. I can’t be. It’s too unstable for her and my family. My children get close and attached and then have to have her ripped from them. 44 days is a very long time in they eyes of a child. Bonds have been made.
I now have to worry about my daughter and how she’s going to feel that a member of our family who has become a huge part of our life is ripped from her. Jayden is old enough that he understands that Alana was not here on a permanent basis, but my 2 1/2 year old doesn’t. As much as they fought, they got along. Ella will be getting more one on one attention with me, but what about her constant play mate? I’ve tried to be strong and put a wall around my heart, but tonight I’m sad. I’m sad of what’s to come of this precious little girl’s life. I’m sad that I didn’t fight harder for her. I’m sad that she’s leaving the one place in her life that actually had a family feel. Not just a mom, but a dad, a brother, a sister… although we were just aunt, uncle & cousins… but it’s the feeling I’m talking about. She got to experience going to church, praying before meals, getting tucked in at night. She got to experience love. And I’m sad to say that what she comes from doesn’t shower her with love. Any mom that ever puts drugs and men before their own child doesn’t know about being a mom.  
I wish I could give Alana the life she deserves, but for now it’s not in my hands.  All I can do is put it into God’s.


UPDATE TO THIS CAN BE READ {HERE}
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