Oh my…. it’s seriously already Wednesday?!? Where is the time flying to? This week for my Works for Me Wednesday I’m sharing a few parenting tips. I know, I know, it’s a themed week and I’m totally going against it. I felt in my heart that this is what I was supposed to be sharing this week, so here you have it! They’re very simple tips, but things that sometimes we might forget. They are tips that take extreme patience, which I know can be very difficult, but don’t we owe it to them?
This past weekend I probably received some of the best parenting advice I’d ever gotten. I can say that Gino and I pretty much wing this parenting thing about 110%. We’re just basically going off of trial and error and hoping that our kids don’t end up needing therapy in the end.
With that said I wanted to share some of the advice that I had received from my dear friend:
#1: Under no circumstances should you ever, ever, ever tell a child they are bad.
#2: You should always make sure that your children know that you are NEVER mad at them… no matter what they do. Instead, when they get in trouble start out with “I’m not mad at you, I’m just mad at what you did. I could never be mad at you.” This is probably my favorite advice… kids should never feel like their parents are mad at them.
#3: Instead of using the word “No” over and over and over again {like what goes on in this house} try to redirect them with positivity. For instance, if they’re determined to pick something up that you don’t want them to pick up just tell them they can pat it. GUYS this is working with my 2 year old! She goes around patting things that she knows she is not supposed to be picking up.
#4: If you don’t want your child to have attitude and yell at you… then plain and simply don’t do it to them. They act as a mirror to you, and I’m already seeing this happen with my 2 year old little girl. Think before you act, speak, blink… they’re watching and they’re ready to copy and throw it right back in your face!
I received an abundant amount of advice from the awesome mama of identical twin girls. But these were definitely a few of my favs! Hope that you can take this in and let it work for you and your family like I am going to do.
I totally agree with #1. My mom gave me that advice and I always remembered it.
Excellent advice!
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Thank you for sharing these. # 2 was tough for me – because you do get mad! I learned how to say, "I'm not mad at YOU, I am mad that there is milk on the floor. Can you help me clean it up?". Somehow, after this happened several times, I was able to reduce the amount of times I got really mad!